My definition of Self Care is:
Making a conscious daily effort to nurture one’s self. A habitual act of Self Love, Self Devotion and offering of kindness to one’s self.
Think back to a time when you felt truly happy with yourself, do you remember? What were you doing? Where were you? What did Self Care look like at that time? Do you recall how you felt? I want you to try and hold onto that feeling.
I believe that anything you have felt before, you can feel again so yes you can feel that great happiness you once lived with and likewise, if you hold onto feelings of a bad nature these feelings become you and how easy it is to find yourself in a place where all you feel is negativity and as much as you try and try, you just can’t shake a continuous bad mood. In these moments ask yourself this: have you been paying attention to Self Care? Have you been disciplined in your behaviour towards Self or have you allowed your routine to slip?
Are you able to notice and acknowledge when you aren’t being particularly nice to yourself?
Are you beating yourself up for something that you want to change and still haven’t quite reached the goal or are you procrastinating because how dare you muster the courage to go after your dreams?
I implore you to pay attention to you, now, in this moment whilst reading this. Love yourself!
What does Self Care feel like to you?
Are you listening to yourself, are you giving yourself permission to feel the uncomfortable feelings you feel and to process them?
As you grow, it’s important to get into the habit of dealing with what arises within you. You see we’re so very good at putting Self Work on hold and using the world around us as an excuse to pull away from the actions we know we must take. ‘I can’t face this now I’m at work. I can’t stop right now because I’m busy. I mustn’t show this feeling because it’s not professional. I mustn’t behave in this way because someone else may not like it.’
We spend so much time preventing ourselves from expressing our truth and not only is this unhealthy, it’s us acting unkindly to ourselves, not valuing ourselves enough or trusting ourselves enough to enable us to just be. It’s very unhealthy to create a facade, in order to fit in to a society that has little room for difference. And what space is provided, albeit better than it has been, still relies heavily on conforming. It’s as though free spirits have no place here. Stop trying to fit in and start being you. Be gentle with yourself, Self Healing isn’t easy and always take time to reflect especially if you fall into the habit of operating from an old mind-set that is no longer aligned with your current surroundings. Be patient with yourself.
I’m speaking on Self Care today because it’s so easy to get caught up in what doesn’t truly matter and you can quite easily fall into negative cycles of nothingness, wandering without purpose, living in fear of Self – the greatness of your own being, if only you could get out of your own way. Know this, you can. Understand that where you’re coming from isn’t where you’re going and so it’s important to check in regularly with yourself.
What actions are you doing on auto pilot that just don’t resonate with who you are?
What obstacles aren’t you facing?
Stop allowing the world around you to mould you. Ownership of Self is powerful. Ownership of Self is freedom. Being a by-product of your own Self Neglect, is not necessary. Nurture yourself. No one is more important than you and what you have to offer the world outside of forced labour, is true magic. Take the time to develop some Self Care acts to keep you in a positive head space. Let go of expectations and allow life to unfold. Say that thing you want to say, do that activity that you want to do and stop allowing your time to slip away. Remember ownership of self is powerful. Self Care is doing what you love, Self Care is sharing love with others, Self Care is doing no harm to others or self and Self Care is acknowledging the importance of Self Love and how the two combine, to remind you that you are worthy of your own love and devotion.
What act of Self Care are you going to do for yourself today?
Sending light and love, ALWAYS x